Finding Your Way, self growth

Loving Between The Lines

We all hear the phrase, “Reading Between the Lines” but we never think about loving between the lines. What if we stopped, just to a step back in situations? Whether at work or if your in a relationship or single, take time for yourself. Take time to love yourself and when you do this, you will realize a bigger picture. The things we often forget. The things we often don’t realize.

I was in a relationship for almost five years and we had our issues. The most disturbing and hurtful issue that caused part of the end of our relationship was that he never told me he loved me and I didn’t feel like he showed me or ever chose me. He never said how we were going to build our future. I knew what I wanted and I expressed it on top of showing him love. He always tells me that he was showing me. (Yes, we still talk, for now.) To me, he was an amazing and caring person so none of that mattered because that was already him and I didn’t see a difference.

We saw each other recently and spent a couple hours together. We were supposed to talk and I couldn’t really say what was on my mind. I just wanted him there and not disturb the quite and love we were sharing. I was afraid of his answers, his reaction. Driving away was so hard. I felt like we just broke up all over again. So when I woke up the next morning, I felt heartbroken all over again. I was heartbroken because I was realizing that I may have to walk away from him for good. All because I couldn’t love between the lines or communicate.

He loved me, he fell in love with me at some point and in the thick of the relationship, I didn’t realize he fell. Taking a step back and going through the emotions, I realized, HE DID. As I was telling my best friend how I knew he loved me, the feelings resonated deeper inside me. When he would call me, “Lovely”, that was his way of saying “I love you!” I was so hell bent on hearing the words, I Love You, that I didn’t stop to think, this was HIS way of telling me. How many other ways were there in my life that I had done this? In my relationships, in my career or friendship or even with myself.

I started to love myself and listen to my inner thoughts, my inner voice and love myself between the lines. I started to pick apart the love within myself. Now that I am doing this, so many things are becoming clearer. This morning, sitting in the drive through of Starbucks crying, not wanting to go to the office, I allowed myself to feel what I was feeling. I am learning to love myself between the lines. Taking time!

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Communication

Uplifting People, Not Just Women, through Communication

Who said that women are the only ones that need uplifting? We all do. In work, in relationships, friendships and more. I am truly lucky to be in the career I am in with wonderful executives. Everyday isn’t sunshine in life and/or at work. Knowing I have wonderful co-workers, leaders, mentor and friends has uplifted me.

Through all of the podcasts, books, seminars, and classes I have gone through over the years, there has been a constant, in maintaining and uplifting yourself as well as others. It is “Communication”. Not everyone communicates the same. It also depends on who and when you are communicating. If we don’t take the time to communicate with ourselves and others, how will things get better or change.

To make change, we must start with ourselves. We have to listen to ourselves and become better listeners. There are many tools to do this. You may be asking why is communication so important to uplifting others. When we listen to ourselves and others (and I mean really listen by putting yourself in their shoes with a caring heart) we automatically show gratitude and respect for one another. This in itself is uplifting. When people feel like they are being heard, no matter if it is at the work place or in a relationship, they are filled with joy and appreciation.

In short, begin listening to yourself. The good and the bad. It is up to you and only you to know what you can handle and where you want the next step to lead. Then you can become a better person in your career, as a team, in friendships and relationships.

-Next we will talk about “Reaction” to the communication.

 

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